When Jesus looked up he saw some
wealthy people putting their offerings into the treasury and he noticed a poor
widow putting in two small coins. He
said, “I tell you truly, this poor widow put in more than all the rest; for
those others have all made offerings from their surplus wealth…”
Not too long ago, at a football game, I sat behind a young girl with
the most beautiful eyes. Her mom was
sitting next to me and introduced herself to me. When I commented on how beautiful her eyes
were the mom nearly broke down.
Her daughter has been cancer free for nearly one year now.
She had the “good” type of cancer, but it was still very serious. There was a moment when they thought they
were going to lose her. But the child
fought back and eventually responded well to the treatment. While she was receiving chemotherapy, she
began to lose her hair. The child’s mother
immediately began looking into wigs. When
the little girl was ready to go back to school, the mother showed her a wig she
could wear. It matched her old hair
perfectly. But the child refused to wear
it. The mother told her, “But what if your friends don’t understand?” “Then I
will explain it to them”, the little girl replied. “But what if they make fun of you?” “Then
they were never my friends. This is who I am.”
The mom told me, “I realized that
it was all about me. It was all about my
fears…What people would think. My
daughter taught me a great lesson.”
Due to our prime time television programs, we have grown used to
thinking that people are perfect all the time; that they can drink all the time
and never get addicted; that they can have all the sex they want and never get
sick; that they can spend and spend and spend and never fall into debt.
Due to our “commercially”
driven society, we have grown accustomed to selling ourselves to others rather
than giving ourselves to others. How do
I know the difference? When we give from our surplus, we sell
ourselves. But when we give from the
depths of our heart, we give ourselves. That’s
the difference!
Divorced parents often fight over their children by showering their
children with gifts. When a man leaves
his wife and moves into an apartment, he often becomes the awesome daddy, the
cool daddy who takes his kids out once a week to see a movie or eat at a fancy
restaurant or get drunk with them, leaving mommy at home the rest of the week to
feed the children, bathe them, wash their clothes, and pay the house bills. Duty has never been glamorous; it’s always been noble.
Recently, a young athlete mentioned to me that his high school coach was
very abusive, very rude and very demeaning to his players. I asked him if he told his
coach. He told me, “No Father. If I do, I may lose my scholarship.” I understood. And I would probably do the same thing. But now that I am older, I know better. And so I told him, “So what? Do what’s right. Stand up for yourself even if you take a
beating for it! You’ll be respected in
the end.”
When in the world did we learn to sell our soul and trade in our human
rights for surplus items? When did we begin to think that our hair or eyes or body is who we are? When did we begin to think that our awards define who we are? Don't you know you can lose all these things but never lose yourself?
When the Lord told the chief priest who he was, he knew what would happen next. He would be crucified. But what the chief priest never expected happened next: He disappeared while the Lord reappeared! That’s what you get when you learn to stand up for yourself! You rise above all the pipsqueaks of this world!
The Lord was willing to give his life up, not sell it. He allowed his clothes to be stripped away, but not the truth.
This is the difference between laying it all down and "surplus" giving.
Giving yourself has always meant dying to thyself. Selling yourself is just an old fashion tactic at getting more for thyself.
When the Lord told the chief priest who he was, he knew what would happen next. He would be crucified. But what the chief priest never expected happened next: He disappeared while the Lord reappeared! That’s what you get when you learn to stand up for yourself! You rise above all the pipsqueaks of this world!
The Lord was willing to give his life up, not sell it. He allowed his clothes to be stripped away, but not the truth.
This is the difference between laying it all down and "surplus" giving.
Giving yourself has always meant dying to thyself. Selling yourself is just an old fashion tactic at getting more for thyself.
This poor widow gave all that she had.
She did what was right and the only One that matters noticed it. That’s all she cared about.
We all can learn from her example.
Fr. Alphonse my wife and I were directed to your site by a friend. We read your Sunday reflection as we traveled from Toledo, Ohio to Reading, PA. What a treasure it was for both of us. I just shared today's reflection with my wife. It was very close to home. I teach theology to seniors in a Catholic High School and the opening of your reflection described what one of my students has gone through recently. So true! When we have little there is little to get in the way of our relationship with God. Thank you for helping me to see the difference between giving and selling.
ReplyDeleteFather, did the girls eyes look like the eyes in this picture? Man I wish I had eyes like that! They are gorgeous!!
ReplyDeleteDivorced parents - When a man leaves his wife and moves into an apartment, he often becomes the awesome daddy, the cool daddy who takes his kids out once a week to see a movie or eat at a fancy restaurant or get drunk with them, leaving MOM! at home the rest of the week to feed the children, bathe them, wash their clothes, and pay the house bills. Duty has never been glamorous; it’s always been noble- Yes ! it is Noble and I TRULY believe my children appreciate what I do for them. They especially tell me when I MAKE these fancy and special dinner for them. The kids tell me that I cook with my heart LOL
ReplyDeleteMy 6th grader son told me my meals that I make will always be something he will remember me by.He just made me feel like a little old lady LOL jk " I thought it was adorable "
Your Meditation moved me Father
Good Bless u my beautiful Father
I very much adore you Father Alfonse :)