Luke 10:38-42 Lord, Do You Not Care?
Martha, burdened with much serving, came to Jesus and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me by myself to do the serving? Tell her to help me.” The Lord said to her in reply, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things. There is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.”
Lord, do you not care? The Lord cares…that I know. But I’m not convinced that He cares so much about what we care so much about. While we stress over a lot of things that maybe are just not worth stressing about, we don’t stress enough what we should be stressing.
Forget for a moment that Martha is working hard in preparing and serving a meal. Let’s, for a moment, imagine that Martha is a 21st century woman, wife and mom who doesn’t prepare or serve a meal but rather stresses over picking the right nanny to tend to her only child. Lord, don’t you care that I pick the right nanny? Now of course I can’t speak for the Lord, but my gut instinct tells me He really doesn’t care. Or let’s take for a moment our full-time working man who thinks he's a part-time dad and husband. He puts in extra hours on Saturday and Sunday to get that big promotion at work. Lord, don’t you care that I make more money than I really need? Again, I can’t speak for the Lord, but I think it’s a sure bet that He doesn’t really care.
There is a school for young children in Dallas that by the name of it I thought at first was a French pastry shop. But then one morning I was surprised to see so many kids getting dropped off to get a pastry, and right before school! I inquired and found out that my little “French pastry store” was actually an American’s ingenious business plan to start up a very expensive school for the snobbish and lonely children of the very rich and far too busy parent.
Recommendations written by school parents reinforce what I just said:
“If not my wife or I…then [this school]...as slightly (maybe overly) protective parents, we looked at EVERY option. Nanny’s, babysitters, daycares, half days, half weeks, full weeks…Far and away the best decision was [this school].
They stressed. They looked at every option, except the obvious one; that is, that they downsize to allow someone to stay home and be the most important person in their child's life; that is, the first educators of love, faith and values to their own God-given and precious child.
Another stressed-out parent writes: “Our daughter has attended [this school] since she was 7 months and she’s now almost 4 years old. [This school] has exceeded our expectations and prepared her so well for Pre-K. I highly recommend [this school] This is not a daycare but the first steps into education.”
Yes, before your child can take his or her first physical steps, they need to be taking their first cognitive steps “into” education, Pre-K.
Now, I've always understood how some poor families could not afford to have one parent stay home. But the fact that rich families cannot afford to either is very confusing to me. By the looks of it (and commentaries), it seems as though rich parents are stressed just as much over the right educational options for their child as poor parents are stressed over the lack of options for their child. Everyone seems to be stressed out, regardless of whether or not they are rich or poor. So maybe poverty and wealth have nothing to do with stress but being over-ambitious and selfishness do?
This might explain why so many children are on medication for anxiety and stress. It’s not because their parents are rich or poor, it’s because their parents stress over the wrong things.
We should all take a trip to Finland where children start their education at the age of seven and don’t seem to worry so much about keeping up with other Fin’s.
I don’t think toddlers need teachers to learn skills or a foreign language like French by the time they can pick their nose. [Of course, there is a French way to pick one’s nose…if you did not already know.] I think toddlers need their mom and dad to take care of their bloody nose.
Does the Lord care about this? I don’t think so. Actually, I know He doesn’t care at all! But I guarantee you that the Lord does care that we are faithful to our vocation as husband/wife and father/mother. The good news is that he will hold us accountable for the simple things in life. The bad news is that most of these things are neglected on a daily basis.
Did you give your time, attention and affection to your spouse and family? Did you stress to your children the need to pray to the love of their life? Did you teach your children how to love as they should?
If not, then it is time to stress over them...over and over again.