Meditation is an ideal way to pray. Using God's word (Lectio Divina) allows me to hear, listen and reflect on what the Lord wants to say to me - to one of his disciples - just like He did two thousand years ago.
The best time to reflect is at the beginning of the day and for at least 15 to 30 minutes.
Prior to going to sleep, read the Mass readings for the next day and then, in the morning, reflect on the Meditation offered on this website.
I hope these daily meditations allow you to know, love and imitate the Lord in a more meaningful way.
God bless you!


Monday, February 16, 2026

The Two Commandments That Will Transform Your Life


The Honest Struggle

I cannot honestly say I love the Lord with all my strength, as tragic as that may sound. Because of all the things that I do and say and think, I cannot honestly say, “I love you, Lord, with all my strength.”

We can say. I love you, Lord, You are my strength.

What are the Commandments? Love God with all your heart, soul, mind, body, and love your neighbor as yourself. Or as Jesus changed, Jesus changed that second commandment. He said, love one another as I have loved you. He made it even tougher. Today we’ll stick with the first one, the first version.

Wisdom and Wasted Time

Before we begin, while I was reflecting and meditating, I was thinking of that comedian, Nate Bargatze. He does these skits on SNL where he plays George Washington. They’re hilarious, and they’re clean.

Anyways, in one of his shows, he says, “you know, when I was 20 years old, my friends would call me up and say, hey, let’s go out. Yeah, let’s go anywhere. I don’t care. Let’s just go. Like, we’ll set the town on fire. Let’s go, let’s do it.

And he says, but when you’re 30 years old, then you say, where are we going? What time are we coming back? I’m driving separately.

Then when you’re 40, you’re like, why did you even call me?”

Why does that come to mind? Because Lord, if I could just have the wisdom I have today at my age that I could have had when I was in my 20s, I would not have wasted so much time pursuing so many different things, like my career, my money, my possessions, all these things.

Fill me, Lord, with your wisdom.

Sooner rather than later, you want to do a great service to your children and grandchildren? Tell them over and over: The things that you pursue in this life, money, career, possessions, big house, big pool, they’re not going to make you as happy as you think.

Love God with all your heart, mind, body, and soul. Love your neighbor as yourself. This is our core belief.

The Daily Gut Check

Gut check it every day. Ask yourself, how am I doing? Be honest with yourself, how am I doing?

Because today, it’s easy to say, I believe in God. But it can be very shallow. Because if we believe in the Christian God, it means a commitment for life. It means committing your life to what?

But Jesus did not hide it. Jesus made it very clear. Pick up your cross and follow me.

So it’s a commitment to picking up your cross. It isn’t a commitment to having an easy life, to avoiding any difficulties, or any challenges, or any pain and suffering. It means to commit yourself to being something very important in this world.

So there are three points, three points I want to make.

Work-Life Harmony, Not Balance

The first one, it almost sounds like the two commandments sound like this work, ever hear of this work-life balance? This is really trendy now, right? Work-life balance. Balance the two. As if one is opposed to the other.

The better way of looking at it is this work-life harmony.

Whatever you do in your life, you have to be passionate. Do what you feel passionate about. Do it, don’t worry about how much money you’re gonna make. Just do what you love doing.

I love being a priest. Is it hard? Yes. Am I happy every day? No. If the bishop would give me six months of vacation, I will take it. But do I love what I do? Yes. And am I passionate about what I do? You can tell. 

If you want to do another favor to your children and to your grandchildren, tell them. You have to do your passion.

Why are these two the great central core of our belief, of our values? Because if you love God with all your heart, mind, body, and soul, then that is going to give you the strength and the joy and the passion to love your neighbor.

When you finally decide to love your neighbor and to help those who are in need and to give an encouraging word or support, when you start doing something for others and it makes you feel good and passionate and loving, and wow, my life is full of meaning and fulfillment, then it’s going to bring you back to the first one. You’re going to say, thank you, Lord, for giving me this opportunity to serve you.

The two feed off of each other. It’s not work-life balance. You don’t say, “OK, how much am I going to love you? How much am I going to give to you?I need some for myself.” No. It really helps to go 100% in both. You’re going to feel what we all want to feel, like we’ve made a difference in this world, that I am here for a reason.

What You Can Control

We are talking about love. 

God isn’t asking us, go and make someone a saint. Go and give someone a job. Go and make someone who’s poor rich. No. You know why? I can’t do that. I can’t make decisions for other people.

Just between us, the Catholic schools, they have this model, saints and scholars. That is the biggest nonsense. Saints and scholars, really? How can I make someone a saint? It depends on them as well. What can we do as a Catholic school that they were loved. I can control that. Because if someone doesn’t love the children, you’re out. But how can I make it that everybody, every student is a saint or a scholar? It’s impossible. How can you have a vision statement that you can’t control?

Anyways.

We’re talking about love. Do I love God? Do I love what I am doing? This is the gut check. Do I love God? And do I love what I’m doing?

This is a reminder that if I don’t, okay, stop wasting your life and stop wasting your time.

Love Penetrates the Unknown

Love is profound. It penetrates the unknown. This is the second point.

Love, the reason why God uses love so much is because, you know why? Because love penetrates the unknown.

I saw this graph. Imagine a big circle. At the very edge of the circle, there’s a line that goes through it. Just at the very edge. It just clips a small piece of the circle. In it, it said, the circle represents what people are going through in their life. The little piece that’s cut off by the line is what you understand about it.

Isn’t it odd that all we see is the outside of people when all the decisions are made from the inside? Isn’t that odd?

What does it mean? It means I’m not here to understand everything. I’m here just to love. I’m here to help.

Love is profound, it’s not shallow. It is what covers a multitude of sins. Love covers the unseen. It covers the unknown. It makes a huge difference. It helps us to open people up to be able to share their experiences.

When you feel loved, what do you do? What’s the first thing that you do? Can I talk to you, please? Here, do you have five minutes? Can I share something with you?

Love opens the heart.

The Laws That Govern Our World

In this world, in the mechanical, physical world, we are governed by the laws of physics. That’s it, the laws of physics. We’re not gonna get to Mars unless we have the proper thrust, the proper equipment, the proper technology, the proper aerodynamics. You can pray all you want, but you cannot get to Mars if you don’t do it and respect the laws of physics. That’s for the physical world.

For the spiritual world, you will never have harmony and peace unless you respect the laws of God. Love God above all things and love your neighbor as yourself. We will never achieve the harmony and the peace that we are looking for if that doesn’t happen.

The Church as the Soul of the World

What is the church? In this modern age of the 21st century, the church is so archaic and so old, and why doesn’t it modernize, and why doesn’t it have a little cafe latte spot in my pew?

Why doesn’t Father come out with smoke and all the lights and all the show and all that stuff? This is boring. If you go out to that other place there, you know, they got the music, they got the lights, they got the entertainment, they got the kiddies corner over there for the playground.

I’ll tell you why. The church is in the business of serving people.

Why don’t you talk about politics? We are here to help people in politics have a soul. Our mission isn’t to create a political party, the Catholic Church party, or the Christian party.

Our mission as a church is to serve people, to give everybody a soul, to give the doctors a soul, to give the politicians a soul, to give the scientists a soul, to give the engineers a soul, to give the military a soul, a Christian soul. To form others.

The church is the soul of the world. If you think about it, the church is called to be the soul of the world. That matters more than any latte.

Conclusion

This is our core belief. Love God above all things, and love your neighbor as yourself.

Check it every day, check it every day. Pursue it with all your might. Pursue it, because if you don’t, you’re wasting your time. Pursue it all the days of your life.

Surround yourself with people you love and take them on that ride, regardless of how old you are.

Amen?

Amen.

Tuesday, February 10, 2026

Let Your Children Suffer — Why Toughness Makes You a Good Parent



The Quote That Started It All

Fr. Alfonse: Good morning, boys and girls. Today’s readings are a warning. Be careful, be careful.

5th grade, 6th grade, 8th grade. Almost every Tuesday morning, I leave a motivational quote on your desk. Sorry, 7th grade, you got next year.

Does anybody remember the one that started with “tough times”? If you remember, come up. Maybe with all of you, we can put it together.

Okay, wow, let’s see how far you can go. 

First Kid: Tough times make strong people. 

Fr. Alfonse: Beautiful. 

Second Kid: Strong people create easy times. 

Third Kid: Easy times create weak people. 

Last Kid: Weak people create tough times.

Fr. Alfonse: That was it. Do you notice something? It goes in a vicious circle. Do you understand?

Thank you guys. I didn’t even have to finish. Have a seat. I am amazed. I’m so proud of you.

Who Was Really Tough: King Herod or John the Baptist?

Be careful. Where’s Henry? He’s in second grade, third grade. Henry, where are you? Oh, there you are.

I promised him. Henry, who was tough? King Herod who beheaded John the Baptist or John the Baptist who was beheaded?

Henry: John the Baptist.

Fr. Alfonse: What? King Herod was king and he beheaded John the Baptist. How can John the Baptist be the tougher guy?

Henry: Because John the Baptist has a lot of power in his mind. He spoke the truth.

Fr. Alfonse: Henry, I’m proud of you. Excellent. Thank you.

You see, we remember John the Baptist. King Herod? You know what happened to King Herod? Does anybody know?

King Herod loved to throw parties. Party time, right? He loved to spend other people’s money.

Some of the high school kids know this. Can we have a party over at my house? Your house. You mean your parents’ house. Yeah, yeah. Can we have a party? Pool party. And Daddy and Mommy have to raise the temperature of the pool because you want to have it during winter time.

And then you tell Mommy and Daddy, yes, we’d like a little caviar and little hors d’oeuvres. You know, maybe chicken nuggets from Chick-fil-A instead of someplace cheaper.

Everybody loves to spend other people’s money.

What Happened to King Herod

Boys and girls, let me tell you something. What happened to King Herod?

King Herod partied a little too much for the Roman emperor, and he was kicked out not too many years after the death of John the Baptist. He died abandoned and lonely, exiled by the Roman emperor Caligula, who was also nuts.

Nobody even talks about King Herod except when we talk about John the Baptist.

Challenge Yourself or Someone Will Take Your Spot

Boys and girls, you’ve got to constantly challenge yourself. Otherwise what happens is that you start going downhill.

If you make it to the top, what are you supposed to do? Come down? No. Keep moving higher and higher.

If you don’t challenge yourself in your life, someone will take over your spot. It happens in business. It happens in schools.

There’s a beautiful school in New York. I remember it. It’s over a hundred years old. Beautiful church. They’re closing at the end of this school year in New York City. A school in New York City after over 120 years.

Why? Because they got comfortable. And little by little they started going down.

The Story of My Cousin in Italy

Listen to this. I have an aunt and an uncle in Italy who had nothing. They grew up during World War II. 

They worked themselves hard to start a little business. The business started to make money. They were millionaires when they died. Millionaires. Wow. Can you imagine from a little store? They created a big store.

When they died, in their will, they put their first child who had gone to college. They gave him some money because he had a job as a teacher. The second child who went to college, they gave her some money because she had a job as an engineer.

The third child never went to college, didn’t have a job. Party time all the time. And they made the biggest, dumbest decision to give him the store because he needed money.

This is my cousin in Italy. It didn’t take more than two years for him to drive it into the ground. And they closed the store.

When Parents Push You, They Love You

Boys and girls, every parent does not want their children to suffer. But every parent, when they tell you that you need to earn your allowance, that you need to earn your grades, that you need to do your work, they don’t hate you. They love you.

Because they want you to know that you have to earn things in life. Otherwise, you never appreciate what you have.

King David Was Great Because He Earned It

King David was a great king. And did you hear what they said about him? Did you hear? It was beautiful. Look at this.

“Like the choice fat of a sacred offering, so was David in Israel.” In other words, he was the best. He was the best.

“He made sports of lions as though they were kids.” He was able to fight lions and bears like they were lambs. “As a youth, he slew the giant and wiped out the people’s disgrace. When his hand let fly the sling stone that crushed the pride of Goliath. Since he called upon the Most High God who gave him strength through his right arm to defeat the skilled warrior and raise up the might of his people.”

Everybody loved King David. You know why?

Because King David was the last child of a bunch of kids. And his parents were shepherds. King David grew up with nothing. He was a little shepherd boy.

And when God called him, he was the youngest one of all the children. God said, you’re the one. You’re going to be the one that’s king.

When God called him to be a king, he made him fight for it. He made him earn it.

Then Came Solomon

Well, then guess what? Then King David had a son, Solomon. Party time! All King Solomon wanted to do was party.

Guess what? By the end of his reign, Israel was divided and conquered. So they weren’t able to say the same thing about King Solomon.

The Real Message

So boys and girls, when your teachers, when your parents, when people that love you say, “Hey, get up, you can do it. Go for it. Work hard for it.”

You want to have a party? Okay, let’s use some of your allowance. You want to go to the movies? You want to go with your friends? Okay, take some of your money.

When your parents want you to earn what you get, they don’t hate you. They really, really love you. They want you to learn how to be tough.

Tough times create strong people. 

Amen?

Amen.